Relationship problems feature prominently in my consulting room. To mend them it is crucial to bear in mind that our individual backgrounds play determining roles in terms of how we interact with one another in a relationship or marriage. This means that to make a relationship flourish, we need a willingness to investigate ourselves and make changes where necessary. We learn from our mothers how to be women and we learn from our fathers the value a woman has. The exact opposite is of true for men to0!